Emotional Differences Response Chart

There are three types of emotional responses that can seem similar but are, in fact, quite different. Stress and grief are emotional responses; depression is a psychiatric disorder. While there are ways to help work through grief and stress, they will often resolve on their own over time. Depression, however, requires medication and/or a mental health professional to treat this disorder. Having a clear idea of the three processes can help you determine when or if to seek treatment. The following chart lists the definitions, symptoms and treatments of all three and will help you decide if you should seek treatment.
Understanding the Differences Between Emotional Responses
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Grief
(Emotional Response)
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Depression
(Psychiatric Disorder)
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Stress Reaction
(Emotional Response)
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Definition |
NOT a psychiatric disorder A common, intense and painful reaction to loss, death of a loved one, family member or friend |
A psychiatric disorder At least 2 weeks of depressed mood and/or loss of interest in regular, daily activities |
NOT a psychiatric disorder A “normal” reaction to a disaster, trauma or highly stressful life event |
Time of Onset/ Symptom Duration |
Symptoms generally occur immediately, 1 month after, and up to 1 year from time of loss |
Symptoms occur consecutively for at least 2 weeks, uninterrupted Diagnosis may be delayed for 2 months after traumatic event to distinguish from grief |
Symptoms occur immediately after and may continue for a period of time after event |
Symptoms |
Numbness Loneliness Sadness Guilt Shock Anxiety Anger Agitation Crying Insomnia Restlessness Withdrawal |
Depressed mood Loss of pleasure of interest in ordinary activities Feelings of guilt, worthlessness or hopelessness Loss of energy or fatigue Difficulty concentrating or making decisions Restlessness or irritability Changes in sleep patterns Changes in appetite or weight Thoughts of death or suicide |
Disbelief and shock Irritability and anger Sadness Feeling powerless Feeling indecisive Crying Headaches or stomach problems Difficulty sleeping |
Treatments |
Talk about/share feelings Tolerate emotions Allow time to pass Occasionally, seek counseling Symptomatic or brief course of medication |
Medication Psychotherapy (talk therapy) Group therapy Support groups Crisis intervention Hospitalization |
Alleviate emotional distress Promote problem-solving techniques When comfortable, getting back into “usual routine” Seek counseling, if necessary |
Prepared by Douglas Jacobs, MD. Sources: National Institute of Mental Health; American Psychiatric Association: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th edition.
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This group provides support for family and friends of individuals with mental illness.
St. Joseph's Hospital/Breese
9515 Holy Cross Lane
Breese, IL 62230
Contact Information:
618-882-3306
sharon206@prodigy.net
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Meets: 2nd and 4th Mondays, 7:00 p.m.
Location: Breese-Mater Dei Library, 900 Mater Dei Drive, Breese, IL 62230
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City Hope Bible Church
5868 West Florissant Avenue
St. Louis, MO 63120
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Phyllis
314-385-9129
314-383-7771 church
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Depression Bipolar Support Alliance
907 Dock St
St Louis, MO 63147
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Helen or Sarah
314-652-6100
866-525-1442 Friendship Line
hminth@sbcglobal.net
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Emotions Anonymous International Headquarters
P.O. Box 4245
St. Paul, MN 55104
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651-647-9712
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Karla Smith Behavioral Health offers this support group for individuals and/or family members whose loved one experiences a mental health diagnosis.
Karla Smith Behavioral Health
200 North Lincoln
O'Fallon, IL 62269
Contact Information:
618-624-5771
Meeting Details
Meets: 1st Thursday of the month; 7:00 - 8:30 p.m.
Call or visit https://karlasmithbehavioralhealth.org/support-groups for additional information.
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NAMI St. Louis
1810 Craig Road #124
St. Louis, MO 63146
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HELP Line
314-962-4670
800-950-NAMI
info@namistl.org
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A Christian support group committed to ministering to the spiritual, emotional, and physical needs of individuals and families affected by mental illness. Within an atmosphere of acceptance, compassion, and empathy we offer relevant information, and trustworthy resources related to issues commonly associated with and experienced by those who have a loved one affected by a neurological disorder or a chemical imbalance. We provide a place to share one’s faith in God and one’s personal experiences as we walk a similar path alongside a family member, friend, or loved one living with a serious mental illness.
Central Presbyterian Church
7700 Davis Drive
St. Louis, MO 63105
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Pat Grace
grace1pat@sbcglobal.net
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Recovery, International
Contact Information:
312-337-5661
866-221-0302
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Email Chuck at johnbeerg13@gmail.com for info about group meetings in St. Louis, Union and Ste. Genevieve, MO.
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CenterPointe Hospital
4801 Weldon Spring Pkwy
St Charles, MO 63304
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Gregg Sansone
636-236-2267
greggsansone@hotmail.com
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This is a support group for adults (18 yrs old+) who have experienced a loss due to suicide. This peer-facilitated group provides much needed help to those experiencing survivor grief. The group is led by two facilitators who are trained by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
CHADS Coalition for Mental Health
4121 Union Road #224
St. Louis, MO 63129
Contact Information:
Michelle Sellers
314-270-2917
Kellen Wolters 309-750-3116
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Meets: 1st and 3rd Wednesdays, 6:45 - 8:00 p.m.
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Aiding Mothers and Fathers Experiencing Neonatal Death (AMEND)
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Maureen Connelly
314-487-7582
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Bereaved Parents of the USA (BPUSA) is a national non-profit self-help group that offers support, understanding, compassion and hope to bereaved parents grandparents or siblings struggling to rebuild their lives after the death of their children, grandchildren or siblings.
Bereaved Parents of the USA, St. Louis
P.O. Box 1115
St. Peters, MO 63376
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Annie's Hope provides an array of services to address grief in young people. Services and activities for children, teens and adults (parents or guardians) include teen retreats, family social gatherings, resource library, referrals, Hope and Healing Gathering, camps, the Horizons Program and more.
The 8-Week Family Support Group is offered five times each year. Designed for children, teens and the adults in their lives, meet once a week for eight weeks. Each session is 90 minutes. No two sets of group sessions are identical. Each set is custom made to fit the struggles at hand in a way that works best for the families involved. Examples of weekly topics include Change, Grief Rituals, Feelings, Preservation of Memories.
Annie's Hope - The Bereavement Center for Kids
1333 West Lockwood #104
St. Louis, MO 63122
Contact Information:
Becky
314-965-5015
kidsgriefmatters@annieshope.org
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This 4-week support group is open to those over the age of 30 whose spouse/partner has died within the past year. Offers support, information about the grieving process, and coping strategies.Barnes-Jewish/St. Peters
#6 Jungerman Circle
St. Peters, MO 63376
Contact Information:
(636) 916-9733
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Weavings weekend retreat is offered at no cost to mothers who have experienced the death of their son or daughter.BJC Hospice/St. Louis
1935 Beltway Dr
St. Louis, MO 63114
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314-953-1676
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St. Anthony's Memorial - Effingham
503 North Maple Street
Effingham, IL 62401
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217-347-1529
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Chapel Hill Mortuary
6300 Highway 30
Cedar Hill, MO 63016
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636-274-4100
855-568-8228 Toll-Free
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Location: Northwest Jefferson County Library, 5680 Highway PP (at Highway 30) High Ridge, MO
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Mercy Hospital South
10010 Kennerly Rd
St. Louis, MO 63128
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314-543-6871
314-543-6873
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Portals is a grief support group open to anyone who has lost a spouse or partner.
BJC Hospice/St. Louis
1935 Beltway Dr
St. Louis, MO 63114
Contact Information:
314-872-5050
griefsupport@bjc.org
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Meetings are held in St. Peters and University City, MO. Registration required. Call for more information and to register.
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This group is for newly widowed individuals. Widows and widowers up to two years are invited to discuss challenges common with losing a spouse.
SSM Hospice
12312 Olive Boulevard #400
St Louis, MO 63141
Contact Information:
Ann Suckel
314-625-4036
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Our Lady of The Snows Shrine
442 South De Mazenod Dr.
Belleville, IL 62223
Contact Information:
Fran Caldwell West
618-772-8391
618-632-3899
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Threshold is grief support group open to anyone, but most attendees are under the age of 65.
BJC Hospice/St. Louis
1935 Beltway Dr
St. Louis, MO 63114
Contact Information:
314-872-5050
griefsupport@bjc.org
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Meetings are held on numerous Tuesdays throughout the year in University City, MO.
Please call for more information and to RSVP.
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Parents Affected by Loss of Child by Suicide (PALS)
Contact Information:
Linda Fehrmann
314-853-7925
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Location: Conference Room A, St. Luke’s Hospital, 232 South Woods Mill Road, Chesterfield, MO
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This support group, offered by the local chapter of POMC, offers support groups, information and advocacy. Support group is for anyone who has lost a loved one to violence. For directions, call St. Alexius at 314-865-3333. The organization's toll-free number is 888-818-7662.
National POMC
4960 Ridge Ave.
Cincinnati, OH 45209
Contact Information:
Mata Weber
618-972-0429
513-721-5683 (OH Headquarters)
natlpomc@pomc.org
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Location: St. Alexius Hospital, 3933 South Broadway, St. Louis, MO
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Call or visit website for information on suicide, education and support groups around the country.
American Association of Suicidology
5221 Wisconsin Ave., NW
Washington, DC 20015
Contact Information:
202-237-2280
800-273-8255 24/7 Suicide Prevention Hot
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Also call 1-800-SUICIDE for further assistance.
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Karla Smith Behavioral Health offers this support group for adults who are coping with a loved one's death by suicide.
Karla Smith Behavioral Health
200 North Lincoln
O'Fallon, IL 62269
Contact Information:
618-624-5771
Meeting Details
Meets: 2nd and 4th Thursdays of the month, 7:00 - 8:30 p.m.
Call or visit https://karlasmithbehavioralhealth.org/support-groups for more info.
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Life Crisis Services at Provident, Inc.
2650 Olive Street
St. Louis, MO 63103
Contact Information:
(314) 446-5158
sos@providentstl.org
Meeting Details
West St. Louis County
Meets: Wednesdays, 7:00 - 8:30 p.m.
Location: Prevent + Ed (formerly NCADA) Building, 9355 Olive Blvd., Olivette, MO 63132 (entrance is in the back of the building)
St. Charles County
Meets: 1st and 3rd Mondays, 6:30 - 8:00 p.m.
Location: Baue Funeral Home, 608 Jefferson Street, St. Charles, MO 63301
Jefferson County
Meets: 1st and 3rd Thursdays, 7:00 - 8:30 p.m.
Location: St. Andrew's United Methodist Church, 1004 Rock Road, Desoto, MO 63020
Jefferson County for Teens
Meets: 2nd and 4th Thursdays, 6:30 - 8:00 p.m.
Location: St. Andrew's United Methodist Church, 1004 Rock Road, Desoto, MO 63020
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Healing Hearts Grief Support, Inc.
220 West Argonne
Kirkwood, MO 63122
Contact Information:
Mary Schrader
314-810-4055
mary@healingheartsgrief.com
Meeting Details
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Children must be accompanied by a parent or guardian.
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Children are encouraged to express themselves through group discussion, stories, art, dress-up, and play.
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The children are divided into age-appropriate groups: 4 to 7 years old; 8 to 12 years old; and teens.
- Groups are open-ended; meets every other week for 90 minutes.
- Meets at 301 Sovereign Court, #110 Ballwin, MO 63011
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This group includes adults who have lost spouses/partners, siblings, children or parents.
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Groups are open-ended; meets every other week for 90 minutes.
- Meets at 211 N. Woodlawn, Kirkwood, MO 63122
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Mothers Against Drunk Driving
2040 Woodson Road #201
St. Louis, MO 63114
Contact Information:
Meghan Carter
314-426-1595
877-623-3435
mo.state@madd.org
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Labyrinth - Growing Through Grief Bereavement is a one-day retreat at Camp Wyman, offered in the spring, focuses on helping teens ages 13-19 cope with loss. Call for more information.
BJC Hospice/St. Louis
1935 Beltway Dr
St. Louis, MO 63114
Contact Information:
314-953-1676
griefsupport@bjc.org
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BJC Hospice/St. Louis
1935 Beltway Dr
St. Louis, MO 63114
Contact Information:
314-953-1676
griefsupport@bjc.org
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Please call for more information.
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BJC Hospice/St. Louis
1935 Beltway Dr
St. Louis, MO 63114
Contact Information:
314-953-1676
griefsupport@bjc.org
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As part of the services offered by Crossroads Hospice & Palliative Care, the Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Program teaches action choices to help people move beyond the pain caused by loss. This seven-to-twelve week bereavement support program creates a safe environment to look at old beliefs about dealing with loss, look at other losses that have affected your life, and to take new actions that lead to completion.
The program was created by Grief Recovery® Institute founders, John W. James and Russell Friedman. It is led by an individual who has been trained and certified by the Grief Recovery® Institute.
Because each session builds on the previous one, attendance and commitment are essential. There is no fee to participate in the program. A complimentary copy of the handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses, (released by Harper Collins in 1998), is provided to all participants.
If you have experienced a loss and wish to move beyond the pain, a bereavement support program offers you the probability of a richer and more rewarding life.
Groups are offered in numerous states; click here for a listing.
Crossroads Hospice & Palliative Care
15450 South Outer Forty Drive #100
Chesterfield, MO 63017
Contact Information:
(636) 735-2000
(855) 327-4677
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This support group is for those grieving the loss of a loved one. Although the support groups are facilitated by a chaplain from DePaul Health Center, the group is not a program of or sponsored by the health center. No pre-registration is required. Open to public.Contact Information:
314-344-7080
314-344-6873
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Location: Bridgeton Trails Library 3455 McKelvey Road Bridgeton, MO
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This organization offers 4-week sessions, once every three months, in the afternoons. Writing Workshops are also offered. These groups are for anyone who has experienced a loss. Focus is on understanding the grief process through grief education and emotional support in a small group setting. Groups are open to the community at large.Heartland Hospice
12101 Woodcrest Executive Drive
St. Louis, MO 63141
Contact Information:
Bereavement Department
314-453-0990
hillary.finch@heartlandhospice.com
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This is a bereavement support group open to all.Mount Carmel Catholic Cemetery
10101 West Main
Belleville, IL 62223
Contact Information:
618-397-0181
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Baue Funeral Home
608 Jefferson Street
St. Charles, MO 63301
Contact Information:
Kelly
636-328-0878
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This is a bereavement support group open to all.Southwest Illinois College PSOP
Contact Information:
618-234-4410, x7056
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GriefShare
P.O. Box 1739
Wake Forest, NC 27588
Contact Information:
800-395-5755
info@griefshare.org
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Heartlinks Grief Center at Family Hospice
5110 West Main Street
Belleville, IL 62226
Contact Information:
Diana or Lisa
618-277-1800
info@myheartlinks.com
Meeting Details
Meets: 1st Monday, 6:30 - 8:00 p.m. Call to register before attendance.
- Preschool children (Little Bear)
- Elementary school age children (Shooting Stars)
- Preteens (Rhapsody group)
- Teens (Brat Pack group)
- Adults (Caregiver and Parenting Alone group)
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Aching Arms/Compassionate Friends (parents grieving the loss of a child of any age)
- Addiction Loss Group meets 2nd Tuesday, 6:30 - 8:00 p.m. at Heartlinks; This group is for parents, adult siblings or other adults grieving the loss of someone due to addiction-related causes.
- Facing the Future Adult Group meets 3rd Monday, 10:00 - 11:30 a.m. at Programs and Services for Older Persons 201 North Church St., Belleville, IL
- TAG (Teens and Grief); this support group is offered in local schools.
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Chapel Hill Mortuary
6300 Highway 30
Cedar Hill, MO 63016
Contact Information:
636-274-4100
855-568-8228
Meeting Details
Location: Northwest Jefferson County Library, 5680 Highway PP (at Highway 30) High Ridge, MO
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Mercy Hospital Jefferson
Highway 61 South
Crystal City, MO 63019
Contact Information:
Laurie Wigger
636-933-5779
laura.wigger@mercy.net
Meeting Details
Location: Mercy Hospice (behind hospital), 5 Industrial Drive Festus, MO 63028
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Last Modified On: 12-02-2018 6:22 pm
This social support group of men and women welcomes all who mourn the loss of a spouse. Organized and sponsored by St. Louis Funeral and Cremation at Chapel Hill Mortuary. Call for more information.
Chapel Hill Mortuary
6300 Highway 30
Cedar Hill, MO 63016
Contact Information:
636-274-4100
855-568-8228
Meeting Details
Location: Pegg's on the Boulevard
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Mercy Grief Support Groups are free and open to the community.
Mercy Hospice-Saint Louis
1000 Des Peres Road
Saint Louis, MO 63131
Contact Information:
Mercy Hospice Bereavement
314-729-4419
Meeting Details
Location: Mercy Hospice
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Mercy Hospital St. Louis
615 South New Ballas Road
St. Louis, MO 63141
Contact Information:
Maggie Loyet
314-251-6878
Meeting Details
Location: Cafeteria Classroom
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Open to anyone at anytime following a loss. This group focuses on supporting one another.
Mercy Hospital South
10010 Kennerly Rd
St. Louis, MO 63128
Contact Information:
Pastoral Care
314-543-6874
314-543-6871
Meeting Details
2nd & 4th Wednesday, 1:00-2:30 p.m.
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Share addresses a wide range of issues relevant for parents, family members and significant friends who are affected by the death of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or death of a newborn. Several types of support groups are offered: Grief Support Group, Loss of a Multiple Birth Support Meetings, and Subsequent Choices Support Meeting. Share is open and free to the public.
National Share Office
402 Jackson Street
St. Charles, MO 63301
Contact Information:
636-947-6164
800-821-6819
info@nationalshare.org
Meeting Details
Call or visit web site for more information. Meetings held throughout MO and IL.
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SIDS Resources, Inc.
1120 South 6th Street
St. Louis, MO 63104
Contact Information:
Lori Behrens
314-241-SIDS (7437)
lbehrens@sidsresources.org
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Last Modified On: 12-02-2018 7:00 pm
This group is sponsored by the Demetrious Johnson Charitable Foundation and the St. Louis North City/County Resilience Coalition.
Demetrious Johnson Foundation
Contact Information:
Ellen Kratz
314-615-9105 x104
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This group is a local chapter of a national organization for women of any age whose spouse has died. Modern Widows Club is focused on growing friendships and connections between widows of all ages through regular meetings, community education, service and outreach. Social events are planned from time to time.Meeting Details
Meets: 2nd Sunday of month, 2:30 - 4:30pmLocation: Send an email to the group leaders, Cyndi and Destiny, for more details
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This support group is for anyone grieving the loss of a loved who has died by any type of substance (alcohol, heroin, cocaine, etc.). The website listed is for the national organization where visitors can search for local support groups around the country. The contact information listed is for the St. Louis area organizer.Pre-registration is required for new attendees. Contact local organizer to register.
GRASP (Grief Recovery After a Substance Passing)
40569 Calle Balderas
Indio, CA 92203
Contact Information:
Mary Ann Lemonds
(314) 330-7586
grasp.stl@gmail.com
Meeting Details
Meets: Sundays, 5:00 - 6:00 pmLocation: Speak with organizer regarding location.
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This spiritual-based support group is for anyone whose loved one (family or friend) has died due to drug use, alcohol use or suicide.Contact Information:
Jack Wilcox
(618) 407-9879
justkeepwalkin37@gmail.com
Meeting Details
Meets: Thursdays, 6:30 p.m.Location: Cafeteria B, Alton Memorial Hospital, #1 Memorial Drive, Alton IL